If you don't, that's fantastic. Please hang out around me and make sure your confidence rubs off on me.
I find myself trying to convince people that I have a great reason to not want the products or services they're offering, or to not want to volunteer for them, or to not want to give money to them.
But I'm changing. I'm a recovering justifier.
I received an e-mail a couple of days ago from someone who sells skin care. She is a very nice lady who took something I offered on Freecycle awhile back. She was inviting women to an event promoting their company and product, and she let me know she'd be sending these invitations monthly, and to opt-out if I prefer not to receive them.
So I clicked "Reply," and I wrote, "Hi--thank you for thinking of me, but I prefer not to be on this list." And then I signed my name and sent it. No explanation, no justification, no convincing. I just politely said "No." And boy did it feel good.
As I've been writing this, my fingers have been itching to explain to you my reasons for declining. And once again, I'm not doing it, because it's not necessary.
"No." Such a simple, perfect, sufficient word, even when reworded politely.
I think I'm growing up.