tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post2167985813299118807..comments2024-01-13T21:12:54.809-06:00Comments on C. Beth Blog.: No, thank you.C. Bethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06644509313017237164noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-64713667959264128842009-01-12T11:19:00.000-06:002009-01-12T11:19:00.000-06:00I have to agree with the above "recovering people ...I have to agree with the above "recovering people pleaser comment." It's so hard saying no because it's entirely against my given nature. At work, I'm a lot harder but at home, I'm a total wimp. Oh well, I'll grow up eventually.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-54667979028407915172009-01-11T19:49:00.000-06:002009-01-11T19:49:00.000-06:00Funny; this is something I've been working on too....Funny; this is something I've been working on too.<BR/><BR/>For example - I got sick awhile back. And when I called in sick, I just said, "I'm calling in sick." No explanation, no "I have a high fever," no "I think I have the flu / strep / whatever." Finally, after 3 1/2 years at the same workplace, I realize that, if I am trusted by my employer (and I am), I can just say I'm sick.beckiwithanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18380322646544580050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-20634618134024227032009-01-11T15:40:00.000-06:002009-01-11T15:40:00.000-06:00Congratulations!!!! It is a very important skill ...Congratulations!!!! It is a very important skill to have.Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09540651980546776612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-55910909126732012422009-01-11T14:35:00.000-06:002009-01-11T14:35:00.000-06:00Mama to a Diva--It's a good thing to work on!Simpl...Mama to a Diva--It's a good thing to work on!<BR/><BR/>Simply Heather--great wisdom in your comment!<BR/><BR/>Deb--Yes,I tend to get in over my head without realizing it too.<BR/><BR/>~hon~--Thank you for your encouraging words!<BR/><BR/>Desert Grace Boutique--HA!<BR/><BR/>Katie--Good for you--now come hang out around me! :)<BR/><BR/>Cathy--I told this story to my husband, and he said, "So if I tell you no, I don't have to give you a reason?" I made it clear, this doesn't apply to him! ;) In all seriousness, I do think sometimes an explanation is warranted, especially if we're really close to someone. But it's usually not my responsibility to give a stranger an explanation, though I often do.<BR/><BR/>Not The Rockefellers--Now, THAT is a good point!<BR/><BR/>Our Scoop--Yes, e-mail is the easiest! And phone somewhat. I agree, in person it's hard!<BR/><BR/>A.--Thank you! Hope we're BOTH able to make progress!C. Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644509313017237164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-11976514513896361692009-01-11T13:39:00.000-06:002009-01-11T13:39:00.000-06:00Kudos to you for making progress on a change you w...Kudos to you for making progress on a change you want to make. I'm working on the same thing.Anneliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08884275507708989497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-20968518011868428442009-01-11T11:44:00.000-06:002009-01-11T11:44:00.000-06:00Good for you! It is so freeing to be able to do th...Good for you! It is so freeing to be able to do that. I am much better at saying no in email or on the phone vs. in person! But I am not that good at it even then. I am also working on not adding the extra explanation! It's tough!Our Scoophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11112824791175057869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-29660240775527610282009-01-11T08:49:00.000-06:002009-01-11T08:49:00.000-06:00It's hard to say no. It really is.You are afraid t...It's hard to say no. It really is.<BR/>You are afraid that there may be some resentment. But it's worse saying yes when you mean no. Then there is resentment for sure.<BR/><BR/>Peace - ReneAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05088944123595868347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-81751449821389163472009-01-11T08:31:00.000-06:002009-01-11T08:31:00.000-06:00I never thought of it that way before! I always h...I never thought of it that way before! I always have an explanation when I say no....when really, only a "no" is needed.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10147032340385913746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-36130186394914154862009-01-11T08:06:00.000-06:002009-01-11T08:06:00.000-06:00my friends have told me I'm very good at saying no...my friends have told me I'm very good at saying no. I agree that sometimes it's harder than other times! It does feel good though, to not have to justify it!Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07767923421577760282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-15791117586193527012009-01-11T07:40:00.000-06:002009-01-11T07:40:00.000-06:00I learned to say no when I joined a carpool and re...I learned to say no when I joined a carpool and realized I was the only one driving!Desert Grace Boutiquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04518669731596935599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-10031310784583351082009-01-11T07:12:00.000-06:002009-01-11T07:12:00.000-06:00Oh I agree so much. Explanations make you guilty o...Oh I agree so much. Explanations make you guilty of something like you're protecting a certain something that you're hiding so unless they ask you why, leave it at yes or no. Wise decision you've made there.<BR/><BR/>I have learned from this, as well. We guard our hearts whenever we lessen our words. And I do the same now. As what they say, anything you say can be used against you so I'd rather speak less.<BR/><BR/>Wise post! I admire your courage with your posts. Just outstanding.<BR/><BR/>GOD BLESS YOU ABUNDANTLY! P.U.S.H.~hon~https://www.blogger.com/profile/02504906686113391698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-39476508187306144622009-01-11T06:53:00.000-06:002009-01-11T06:53:00.000-06:00Oh yes, I think this is common among women in part...Oh yes, I think this is common among women in particular. We are so hardwired to do for others. I have a very difficult time not just saying "no" but not seeking out ways to "help out", and as a result I overextend and get nothing done! Must work on setting limits. I'm not a do-gooder, I just don't know what my limits are!Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08453645332115977645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-36609336155766199632009-01-11T06:42:00.000-06:002009-01-11T06:42:00.000-06:00Great Post! I'm a recovering "people ple...Great Post! I'm a recovering "people pleaser" (that's what I call it).<BR/><BR/>The Lord has worked it out of me over the years; allowing me to get in over my head because I didn't say no when I should. My trouble is the deepest desire not to dissapoint anyone. It's not for need of being a hero or looked at with appreciation...it's simply because I don't want others to feel hurt. Everything I do, say, write and just be, seems to stem from this in my inner core. <BR/><BR/>BUT...as I said, The Lord continues to work it and mold me; enabling me to really understand how to:<BR/><BR/>Simply let your 'Yes' be 'Yes,' and your 'No,' 'No'...~from Matthew 5:37.<BR/><BR/>The rest of this verse says thatanything else comes from the evil one. I know that Jesus wasn't telling us we're devils ;o). I believe that when we try to justify, reason, push beyond the "simple's"; we make room for the evil one to start stomping in our mind and in the mind of others.<BR/><BR/>Okay...sorry for that bit of "over the top" on your page...I just had to get it out and figured I was already here. (see....I was just about to explain why I needed to get it out here...nevermind ;o>)<BR/><BR/>Bless you, girlfriend and fellow mommy; with a wonderful enlighting and love filled day!<BR/><BR/>♥ HeatherHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04693495698843336789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4774778021065181469.post-79922850554594253942009-01-11T05:56:00.000-06:002009-01-11T05:56:00.000-06:00I do the same thing! I am working on it too.I do the same thing! I am working on it too.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17590464853663386352noreply@blogger.com